Amy sent me a postcard while she was on vacation in Ireland telling me how stellar the local food was. I wrote to thank her for thinking of me and to check in on how she was doing. She responded with, “I think about you all the time, Jodi. You are often the guiding voice in my mind, helping me make the better choices in life. “ This is a huge compliment and it got me thinking about who and what guides the choices that we all make in life?
Anyone who has known me for any amount of time has heard me say many times, “We take in information only when we are ready for it.” What I was told at say 19 and I didn’t take to heart, was likely presented again to me when I’m was 27 and was suddenly in love with the information. I believe it is important to always be willing to listen to “old” information again because we never know how it will hit us the second (third, fourth or fifth) time around. We aren’t always ready to hear what might benefit most at any given moment in our life but if we are lucky, we’ll have the opportunity again and the next time it will have a positive impact on our choices.
For many years my internal dialogue was not a good one. Actually, it was pretty shitty. The voice in your head that governs your behavior comes directly from the people and the environment that you surround yourself with (another post for another day). That includes family too, and if your family lacks emotional fortitude, love, respect and confidence, your internal dialogue more likely than not reflects that negativity. It’s that paradigm of garbage in/garbage out thang. It’s not rocket science.
I didn’t grow up in the best of circumstances, but somehow I found a way to eventually change the ongoing and detrimental conversation that played over and over in my head and replace it with one that supported more of what I DESIRED in my life, not what I felt was handed to me. It takes king-sized cohunes to step away from what’s presented to you, and forge your own path. Do it. It’s well worth the effort.
This is also true when we talk about food. How do you decide what goes in your mouth? What’s the internal dialogue that takes place with your overall wellness? One thing most of us are all guilty of is the reward system with food. For many of us the conversation in our head goes something like this…
“OMG I worked so hard today, I deserve a pitcher of margaritas (bag of potato chips, pint of Ben & Jerry’s, pepperoni pizza)”
How come we never say things like,
“Rock on, sistah. How ‘bout a big fat green juice for a job well done.”
Why is it that when we think of “rewarding” ourselves we usually do so with something we KNOW is detrimental to our health?
Who teaches us that?
What motivates you to accept or reject that internal voice?
Where did that voice come from?
Was there a defining moment in your life when the conversation changed?
Please leave a comment in the section below so that maybe someone else can learn from YOUR experiences.